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If the Shoe Fits…

May 8, 2014 By Ashley

I am grateful to all of you collagen-normal people who hang on with me, supporting my blog and getting the word out to those of us who are collagen-challenged. I have tried to pick subjects with Universal appeal, and this one is no exception. I’m the canary in the mine: what kills me, will eventually hurt you. One of the first problems I had as a young adult, misdiagnosed with “fibromyalgia,” was debilitating back pain. I was a 20 year old Nursing student, and I could barely make it through clinicals. I went to a pain specialist, who told me there was no medication he could give me that would help my chronic pain, not even narcotics. I would have to just learn to live with it (This has profoundly shaped my life. We’re going to talk about his later on…) He noted my very tight hamstrings, and gave me a TENS unit for pain control during my hospital shifts, which was really effective, and helped me move normally. But that was it: no referral to PT, no mention of lumbar support, or abdominal weakness, and not one mention of the shoes I was wearing. How far I have come since then. 80% of Americans will suffer from back pain in their life, and according to most sources, the causes are lack of exercise, excessive sitting, poor diet, poor posture and bad footwear.

Which one are you?

The reason why I am here with you today, is my physical therapist met me at a party. I was wearing ridiculous footwear (Earth shoes. Don’t buy them). I was sent to a “healthy foot store” by a chiropractor, and the sales people talked me into uncomfortable, expensive sandals that were not at all appropriate for my suspected condition. She asked me why I was wearing them, and the rest is herstory…But until then, I had been living in UGGS and flip flops, with the occasional heels for special occasions. And why wouldn’t I? I had been to countless specialists for 20 years: pain doctors, physical therapists, chiropractors, massage therapists, internists, orthopedists, and not one of them ever asked me what I was wearing on my feet or taught me what to wear. But even if they had, I’m not sure I would have listened. I’m a funky girl, and the “orthopedic shoes” of yore would have turned me off immediately. Fashion was always very important to me. It wasn’t until Motherhood sucked the life out of me, and I spent five years in yoga pants, that I had lost so much of my personal identity, I was ready to move into a look that was more responsible and fitting of my new, uh, lifestyle.

Ditch the UGGS – try these instead

But have no fear! In many ways Fashion has gotten more responsible, and we have much better choices now. I am happy to report that I have still got it (snap!). I am on a mission to find funky, healthy shoes and accessories, because I have learned that limping for three days is not attractive. I have also discovered that by doing the things I need to do to take care of my body, I look better than I did in my 20s. Eating right keeps me thin. Doing my ab exercises, which strengthens my back, gives me a tight, flat stomach. I may be the weirdo with the skull fanny pack, but I look pretty damn good in a bikini at age 41!  True health is true beauty, and that’s what I never knew back then. I now see the fashionistas shuffling through the mall in their UGGS and flip flops, with their sagging ankles, and cankles (really, those shoes do nothing for our legs, ladies), and I cringe not only from an aesthetic point of view, but also as the Ghost of Chiropractic Future, knowing what is in store for them.

Do you have foot pain? Foot and ankle pain of any kind is not normal, not even when we get out of bed in the morning. If you change your shoes to  a “healthier” version and continue to have pain, you may need to use an orthotic or insert. Try an over the counter insert first, Super Feet or Lynco which also has children’s sizes (you want to get one with a posted heel and arch support). If pain continues, you might need a custom orthotic made by consulting with a podiatrist.

Are your shoes causing your pain? Here is the Malleable Mom’s guide to picking good footwear, based on my research, and awesome medical team. (Men, these pictures yell at women for their fashion choices, but the rules apply to your shoes too…)

  • Has arch support built in
  • Cannot easily be bent in half or twisted from side to side
  • Holds your heel (not a slip on)
  • Could snugly hold an orthotic (not a slipper shoe where it would slide around inside)
  • Absorbs shock: doesn’t have a flat or flimsy sole
  • Bends at the ball of your foot only

These flip flops won’t flop

If you want to wear a heel, choose a platform so the slopes of the heel is not severe. If you have a high arch, and you naturally pronate (feet turn in), a wedge shoe will correct you. But, wear it for short periods of time, like an evening out, not all day, or for times when you will do a lot of walking. For example, to replace my beloved gold sparkly heels,

I got these. 

They are just as eye catching, but I don’t limp the next day. And I get more compliments from these shoes, especially from men, than any other pair I have owned!

So go through your closet, run the test on what you own, and then use this as an excuse to go shopping keeping the new rules in mind. Let’s teach our daughters that their health is more important than fashion trends, and that they can still look good and feel good. 

Get these sexy sandals from Clarks

(first published on Blogger on 4/17/14 1:26 PM Pacific Daylight Time)

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  1. Temple Hergenrader says

    May 5, 2017 at 4:56 pm

    Hello again! The doctors (and I) have been telling my daughter for months that she should not wear her flip flops and boots all the time. After the doctor we saw yesterday said it, I think she’s willing to listen (she’s 7 but thinks she’s 40). Do you know of any kid brands that are good? She is not loving the idea of only wearing sneakers for the rest of her life. hahaha

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    • Ashley says

      May 14, 2017 at 11:34 am

      As long as a shoe has a sturdy sole, a strap around the ankle, and doesn’t have a heel, it is probably good. That means no gladiator sandals (the flat sole has no support for our arch) no shoes you slide into (must be a sandal with an ankle strap) and as she gets older, if she has to wear a heel for an event, make it a wedge heel, and try not to walk around for long periods of time in them. (just sit/stand ion them to look pretty.) This is her best chance of not ruining her lower back/hips/knees/ankles. That said, there are many sandals out there that she will like, especially from Clarks, Naturalizer, Merrill, and other “healthy shoe” companies. They are making much prettier designs these days. Make sure you order the orthotic inserts that I recommend in the post so that she has more choices of “fun shoes” that you can convert into a responsible shoe with the orthotics. If you follow my rules in the post, she should be OK and have options beyond sneakers.

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